I met up with a friend of mine immediately after she shocked me with the question: "Magkano ang annulment?" At first I was threatening to kick her ass if she even thought about it (she has two kids!) but the more I asked if she were serious, the more it dawned on me that she was not kidding. The reason? Her hubby has no initiative...at all. Wrong priorities and really bad budgeting is what makes everything boil.
I had the same problem with my last two exes. And lately, I notice that most guys my age are not much different. A huge chunk of them take their time in school, and when they get out, you have to threaten them with a broomstick just so they'd look for work. Heck, I know a lot of my friends still remember the anecdote about my ex wherein I asked him if he ever planned to get a job and he replied with, "Ayaw kasi ako ng nanay ko palabasin ng bahay kasi baka raw ako magkasakit."
An insult to your intelligence, isn't it? But you wouldn't believe the other mind-numbing excuses today's generation of men could come up with. Some of them even use the excuse that they do not have commuting money. Right. But they have money to play Ragnarok with. You find stories about these types plastered all over FemaleNetwork on threads like "I married the wrong man" and "Are you a sugar GF?" Sadly, the second thread is filled with women who have yet to realize that they are too valuable to be dating their spoiled, useless boyfriends.
The worst thing I've ever heard from males is this: "I can't afford these stuff so I have to rely on my girlfriend." (Another variation of this statement goes something like, "Your boyfriend can afford to pamper you because he's rich, but I'm not rich so it's my girl who buys everything for me." Did they ever stop to think that I return the favor because my code of honor dictates it?) Whatever respect I had for these overgrown babies flew out the window because of their blatant disrespect for their women and themselves. These are the same guys you'd find cheating a couple of months later. Any self-respecting man would be too ashamed to even think about mooching off his gf.
I think nature has stopped producing quality men in 1977.
Sure, there are still young, hardworking rarities like Mark Poa, but the more I ponder on it, the more I begin to think that pretty soon the Mark Poas of this world will cease to exist. Men will unofficially relinquish their roles as the head of the family. They will leave everything up to their wives, who will work by day and be hands-on moms by night, while the men will complain about how difficult their little chores are. An independent woman's nightmare. Thirty years from now, more and more women will be taking over male-dominated jobs and just raise kids on their own. They will only find men useful when they're in need of a romantic fling or for propagating the species. In my friend's case, it seems like she's raising three kids instead of two (the third one is her husband), so it really does seem like it would be less burdensome if you got rid of the excess baggage. When this becomes the norm, the Sacrament of Matrimony will be the stuff of legends.
That or only gay people will want to get married.
You know the sad part about this? Most of the dudes you actually consider prime, marriageable catches are gay.
COMMENTS from the previous blog:
drewbocz wrote on Sep 24, '06
Well, life's a cycle. Diba there's a theory that females were dominant before man came along and rewrote history?
So maybe the wheel is turning back and we're on the edge of the return to matriarchal supremacy.
Buti nalang we share chores with my wife so I won't be too lost being a househusband. :-p
acid42 wrote on Sep 24, '06
I still believe it has much to do with values formation within the family.
If you do not instill the values of hard work and initiative and manners and discipline to your children, they end up slacking off 18 hours a day, in front of the tv, obese and arthritic, spoiled and clueless. Give them chores. Spank them when they misbehave. Explain to them about what matters in life.
zweihander wrote on Sep 25, '06
haha, lolz... =P
ah well, can't blame 'em, but i think some men are like these.. quite a shame really.. ever since you've made this artcile, well, i might add these things up in my ntbk.... hehe.. XD
i would love to help my wife (if i have one!) with the household in da future, haha.. XDDD
ogie915 wrote on Sep 26, '06
that is the reality now. Thank God my hubby learned... the hard way hehe. I don't think it started after 1977. My father and my father in law are in the same boat. In my last confession the priest said "If not for the women, what will happen to the world."
The GFs who spend for their spoiled BFs are at fault too. They spoiled them so naturally they'd sit back and just wait for blessings to fall on their lap. Its really up to us to kick them on the butt so they'll make something of themselves.
"Ayaw palabasin ng mama ..." Geez a true blue mama's boy!
skysenshi wrote on Sep 26, '06
acid42 saidIf you do not instill the values of hard work and initiative and manners and discipline to your children, they end up slacking off 18 hours a day, in front of the tv, obese and arthritic, spoiled and clueless.
Ang nakakatakot dito, if we raised our kids properly, they might turn out to be gay. Di kaya? Kasi pramis talaga lahat ng hinahanap ko sa lalake -- gentlemanly, intellectual, industrious -- parang sa mga bading ko lang nakikita these days (except of course for the fact na di nila ako type kasi girl ako).
skysenshi wrote on Sep 26, '06, edited on Sep 26, '06
ogie915 saidThe GFs who spend for their spoiled BFs are at fault too. They spoiled them so naturally they'd sit back and just wait for blessings to fall on their lap.
I completely agree with you. These women are so intelligent and hardworking that you wonder why it looks like they're buying their men's affections. Nge. I would never settle for anything less than a man who works as hard as I am (learned my lesson).
You know the most irritating thing about men like these? It hasn't happened to me only once na after telling me they practically mooch of their gfs, they start hitting on me. Pucha! Ano pangde-date namin, yung pera ng gf niya??? Ka-bwisit! Kapal ng mukha.
skysenshi wrote on Sep 26, '06
zweihander saidever since you've made this artcile, well, i might add these things up in my ntbk.... hehe
I have high hopes for you kaya marami akong students na hindi ako magsisisi i-pair sayo. Nyahahaha!
The reason why I'm this cynical is because of two men. One of them pampered me to death, and I enjoyed the royal treatment...until I found out that he was using his mom's credit card. Grabe! Sobrang turn-off! The other one...well, if his mom won't allow him to look for work eh di pakasalan na lang niya nanay niya.
anthalas wrote on Sep 26, '06
I don't know what else to say other than I hope to god I don't behave like that. If I do, you must promise to bitchslap me silly until I get off my arse.
I may not have made the 1977 cutoff... (81 ako) but I'm here to prove you wrong, even if I'm somewhat spoiled :P
Oh and the gentleman thing... some girls don't like it when a man is overly... whats the word for it... overly gentle? While others demand nothing but gentlemanly perfection. WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?!?! :-D
Me: I want my Mira and I'm prepared to work really hard to get her.
skysenshi wrote on Sep 27, '06
anthalas saidI may not have made the 1977 cutoff... (81 ako) but I'm here to prove you wrong, even if I'm somewhat spoiled :P
You don't have to prove me wrong, since I think you're one of the Mark Poas I mentioned (born after 1977, not gay, but responsibile)...even if it took you a while to get there. I'm not on the lookout for the ultimate gentleman...but for a guy who can at least be at par with me. Like for instance:
1. I can drive. Can you?
2. I live on my own. Can you?
3. I can pamper my man once in a while. Can you?
4. I am driven. Are you?
5. I have goals. Do you?
Those are five simple questions naman. Hehe.
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